Anonymous asked: I think I was sexually a abused but it doesn't "feel" like I was. I was 15 and he was around 24. We never had sex but we did other things. But I never felt like it was wrong and till this day I still don't and I'm 18 now. It went on for 3 years and I stopped it. Was I abused?
I think I’d be right in saying that most sexual abuse isn’t meant to feel like abuse - that’s why the abusers tell you it’s okay, don’t tell anyone, it’s love etc. That’s what the grooming is for. Sexual grooming is where they get to know you, get close to you and convince you that you can trust them - so how could it be abuse? You care about each other! But it’s bullshit.
A twenty-four year old has no place with a fifteen year old. A lot of people will say that it’s okay, fifteen is old, twenty-four is young, etc.. But the point is that he was an adult and you were a child. You can’t make decisions like that properly when you’re fifteen.
When I was fifteen I met a twenty six year old online, and I thought I was very mature and capable. He drove me out to nowhere in his car, where I was essentially stranded, and I was scared. My parents didn’t know where I was and I’d never met this guy before. We ended up “hooking up”, because I was too scared to say no. I couldn’t call my mom, and I certainly didn’t want to ask him to drive me home after refusing to do anything, because I didn’t want to be stranded with a stranger, let alone an angry one. I got home that night and I felt so dirty and violated. I chose to get into his car, but I was just a kid. He shouldn’t have been talking to children online and he shouldn’t have whisked me away in his car away from my parents without anyone’s knowledge. THat’s a dangerous situation.
Always question that type of scenario. WTF is an adult doing with a child?